Winifred Kellogg, 71

Winifred Dickey Kellogg died peacefully in Exempla Good Samaritan Hospital in Lafayette, Colorado on Jan. 26 surrounded by her family. Last August she was diagnosed with Interstitial Lung Disease, and in early January the disease flared up and she was hospitalized.

Win was born on Dec. 25, 1943 in Baltimore, the first of two daughters for Tutts and Dan Dickey. She grew up in Princeton, NJ and graduated from Wheaton College in Norton, MA. Win majored in English and was chairman of the Honor Committee in her senior year.

Win met her future husband, Spen Kellogg when they were paired to get out the vote in the Gracie Mansion area of New York on Election Day 1968. They were married on Sept. 19, 1970 in Trinity Church, Princeton, NJ. In 1973 Win and Spen were posted to the Philippines, where their first child, Spencer, was born. In January 1976 they returned to the States and moved to Wilton. Their second son, Daniel, was born two months later. A daughter, Lisa, followed four years later.

Win joined the PTA and successively served on the boards of the Driscoll, Cider Mill, Middlebrook, and High School PTAs, always avoiding the top spot, preferring to support someone else’s leadership. In 1997, when Lisa was a senior in the High School, Win was elected President of the Wilton PTA Council. Win was active in Minks to Sinks and for many years could be found sorting linens in the furniture tent. As her children grew interested in music, she found a volunteer opportunity as a band parent. She was a fervent supporter of her children as their musical careers flourished, attending their musical events from New Haven to Orlando, FL.

At St. Matthew’s Win participated in women’s groups and was very involved in a project known as Team KC, providing support to the George Fuller family as KC Fuller moved from the early stages of Alzheimer’s disease through the more serious stages until the disease finally took KC’s life before the age of 50. Win also was a member of the search team that called the Reverend Mary Grace Williams to serve as Rector of St. Matthew’s. Her humor helped the team through its rocky moments and endeared her to all.

In the fall of 1988 Win was diagnosed with stage II breast cancer, which lead to a mastectomy and a year of weekly chemotherapy treatments. Realizing that cancer patients had to learn a lot quickly in order to make good health decisions, she founded a breast cancer support group called Bosom Buddies. Although the group disbanded 10 years later, when local health care organizations began to provide similar support, she continued to advise those who sought her out.

When A Better Chance (ABC) of Wilton was started in Wilton, Win and Spen became host parents for Ray Chambers, a Jamaican-born student from Mount Vernon, NY. Ray graduated from the Wilton High School in 1999 and went on to a distinguished academic career at Brown University and the Harvard Business School. Ray and the Kelloggs continue to stay in touch. Win served in various capacities with ABC.

In 1998 the Wilton YMCA honored Win with the Distinguished Citizen Award for her many community volunteer activities. She brought compassion, understanding, support, and humor to everyone.

With her children in college, Win joined Family & Children’s Agency, coordinating a teen mentoring program with Sheri Richards, wife of Wilton School Superintendent, Gary Richards. Together they matched high school teens from Wilton, New Canaan, Westport, and Darien with younger children who could benefit from a close and regular contact with a teen.

In 2008, Win and Spen retired and moved to Erie, CO to be nearer their children and granddaughter. One of Win’s biggest regrets was that her mother never met Spen, her children, and grandchild. Win spent the next four and a half years enjoying being a grandmother. In Colorado Win joined the Outreach Committee of St. Mary Magdalene Church in Boulder. Win also volunteered at the local food bank and in an elementary school. A cherished possession is a letter from one of her students thanking her for helping him with his reading. In it he said, ”You I bet are going to become an a awesome teacher when you get older, and more and more kids will want your help in helping them read hard to read books. You are a nice person and you should know it.”

Despite the distance Win kept in touch with her friends in Wilton and on the east coast through the Internet. Her computer served as a magnet for humor, some of it a bit off-color, which brought joy and laughter to friends from Maine to Florida. She will be sorely missed by all, and her humor and concern for others will always be remembered.

Win is survived by her husband of 42 years, Spen Kellogg, and by her children: Spencer Kellogg of Salt Lake City, Daniel, Hsing-ay, and Kaela Li Kellogg of Erie, CO, Lisa Kellogg of Denver, and by ABC Scholar Ray Chambers of New York City. A memorial service will be held at 10 a.m. March 23rd at St. Matthew’s Episcopal Church, 36 New Canaan Road, Wilton, followed by a reception at the church. The family suggests that instead of flowers donations may be made in Win’s memory to: The Breast Cancer Research Foundation, 60 East 56th Street, 8th Floor, New York, NY  10022; or A Better Chance of Wilton, PO Box 7658, Wilton, CT  06897,