Patricia M. Elsberry, 79

Patricia M. Elsberry died March 24, 2014 at the age of 79 at home surrounded by her family. Born on July 5, 1934 to John and Agnes Steneck, she grew up in Minneapolis, Minn.

She is survived by her son Christopher, sports columnist for the Connecticut Post, and his wife, Lorelei; daughters, Victoria, Sheryl, and Kathleen and her husband Ignacio; grandchildren, Robyn, Lauren and Stephen. Ms. Elsberry was predeceased by her husband, Richard, whom she married on June 18, 1955 and celebrated 55 years of marriage before his death in 2010.

While growing up in Minneapolis, Ms. Elsberry attended the University of Minnesota, majoring in journalism and later worked for United Press International. In 1984, she survived lung cancer and in 1988 survived throat and tongue cancer.

“A fighter if there ever was one,” her family said, Ms. Elsberry also overcame a stroke, rotator cuff surgery on both shoulders, as well as carpal tunnel syndrome.

She loved to cook and for many years operated her own “Patti Cakes” business in Wilton, creating personalized wedding cakes, including ones that looked like a soccer ball, a skateboard, a guitar and a unicorn. She volunteered at the Turnover Shop in Wilton for more than 20 years and also at the Wilton High School library.

While living in Louisville, she volunteered at Actors Theater, cooking meals for the cast members of whatever play was performing at that time. She also loved to travel and along with Richard, went to London, Paris, Venice, Africa, Turkey, Italy, Portugal, Spain, Rome, Mexico, Prague, Budapest, Tuscany and Thailand (where she rode an elephant), along with going on cruises to Canada and Alaska.

One of her greatest moments came after writing to Phyllis Diller about putting a bowl of cereal into the oven when she said her husband wanted a hot breakfast. Diller liked that so much she used it in her comedy routine. The two became great friends and exchanged letters for years. Pat also rubbed elbows with such stars as Jane Powell, Dave Brubeck, Frank Converse, Theodore Bikel, Rod McKuen, Anne Meara and Jerry Stiller.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the American Cancer Society.