Licensed clinical psychologist Susan Bauerfeld and college consultant Victoria Hirsch will lead a presentation and discussion on handling the college application process for parents of eighth through 12th graders at Wilton Library on Tuesday, March 14, at 10 a.m.
During their talk, College Frenzy: How to Manage Yourself and Your Family Through the Process, Bauerfeld and Hirsch will offer tips, strategies and suggestions for handling the college process in a way that fosters connection and resilience rather than discord and despair.
“Victoria and I will present an overview of the various factors that contribute to excessive stress during the process leading up to college,” said Bauerfeld, “followed by recommendations for different ways to think about and handle the process that can reduce or mitigate the impact of the stress.”
In doing so, Hirsch said, “we hope to bring the focus back to excitement and curiosity for the future, rather than apprehension or fear.”
Excessive competition, overvalue and misunderstanding of college name recognition and ranking, managing financial considerations, and peer chatter and its associated pressure are some of the struggles and challenges students and their families encounter during the college application process, said Bauerfeld.
As children go through the college application process, Bauerfeld said, it doesn’t help for parents to:
- Focus the vast majority of their conversations with their college-bound teens on subjects related to the college process.
- Send messages — both inadvertent and intentional — that link their child’s worth and/or success with the name of the school they will attend.
- Tie their own view of themselves as successful parents and human beings to the outcome of the college process.
- Get over-involved emotionally.