Lillian Tanner Smith passed away peacefully at Somers Manor Nursing Home (Somers, NY) on Tuesday, February 12th, after a long illness. She was 60.
Lillian was born in Norwalk, CT, on June 7, 1952, to Dolores Adams and Thomas Tanner. She was a 1970 graduate of Wilton High School and a lifelong resident of Wilton. She was married for 39 years to her loving and devoted husband, David J. Smith, a son of Daisy and Walter R.T. Smith, all of Wilton. For many years, she applied her considerable skills in bookkeeping, computers and administration, all self-taught, to managing her husband’s excavating and plowing businesses.
In both her personal life and her work, “Lil” (as she was known to all) will be remembered as a fiercely determined advocate for anyone who needed help. In later years she found her calling as a substance-abuse counselor and worked tirelessly for a local rehabilitation center. Her deepest devotion was to her family, especially her children. Big-hearted and always eager to bring a smile to others, she worked hard to make every occasion special — from imaginative birthday and anniversary celebrations with her beautifully decorated cakes, to enchanting Christmases, when she would stomp sooty boot-prints onto her beige carpet to show her children that indeed Santa had come. Her door was always open to young and old who needed a helping hand. She took great pleasure, too, in her extensive collections of antique dolls and Hummel figurines.
In addition to her husband, Lillian is survived by her son, Jason D. Smith of Wilton; her daughter, Jennifer Urban and Jennifer’s husband, Chris, of Milford, CT; her mother, Dolores Adams of Winstead, CT; her brothers, David Tanner and Mark Tanner, and Mark’s wife, Tina, also of Winstead. Lil was also a loving aunt to many nephews and nieces, a dedicated in-law, dear cousin, steadfast friend and good neighbor. She will be greatly missed and forever remembered.
She was predeceased by her father, Thomas Tanner; by her stepfather, Raymond Adams; and by an infant son, Jonathan.
The family will receive friends during calling hours on Friday, February 15th, from 5-8 p.m. at the Bouton Funeral Home, 31 West Church Street in Georgetown, CT. A memorial service will be held at 11 a.m. on Saturday, Feb. 16th, at the Wilton Congregational Church, 70 Ridgefield Road, Wilton. A reception in Pilgrim Hall will immediately follow the service.
Contributions in Lillian Smith’s memory may be made to Hospice and Palliative Care of Westchester, 311 North Street — Suite 204, White Plains, NY 10605.